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Finding Inspiration

Saturday, April 15th, 2017

Words that will lift your spirits.

Written by Tony Mussari, Sr.
Edited by Kitch Loftus-Mussari
Copyright 2017
Mussari-Loftus Associates
The Face of America Project

Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. Helen Keller

A beautiful, encouraging note from a former student got me thinking about my medical situation, and what I could do to meet the many challenges Kitch and I are facing with dignity and class.

This was part of my response to that beautiful note:

Thanks for your note of March 26.

I will treasure your kind words until the end of my journey here.

As a result of the thoughts you shared, I decided start a new project. It will give me something positive to think about and look forward to. I am going to design an encouragement garden in Windsor Park.

Attached is one of the graphics that will be placed in encouragement garden.

This was his response:

“Love it!! Great inspiring idea!! Doc, thanks for sharing!”

As we approach the most hopeful day on the Christian calendar, Kitch and I would like to give you a preview of some of the material that will be in the Encouragement Garden.

Calvin Coolidge

In 1923, Calvin Coolidge was the Vice President of the United States. Upon the death of Warren G. Harding, Coolidge became the 30th President of the United States during The Roaring Twenties.

Coolidge was known as “a quiet and serious man…Coolidge served as a sort of father figure. The quiet, respectable and frugal president provided a comforting symbol of old-fashioned responsibility and virtue.”

William Allen White titled his biography of Coolidge, “A Puritan in Babylon.”
His left an indelible mark with this inspirational quote:

Press on-Nothing can take the place of persistence. Perseverance and determination alone are omnipotent.

J.K. Rowling

J.K. Rowling is celebrated novelist, screenwriter and film producer. She is known around the word as the person who created the Harry Potter books.

In 2011, Cristina Hartmann who worked at the Federal Communications Commission told us that Harry Potter exemplifies a seamless blend of world-building, storytelling, and timeless themes. Among those themes are:

Good versus Evil;


Meaning of Friendship;

Political Intrigue.

J.K. Rowling has the gift of words and images as demonstrated in the transformational words:

Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.

John V. Maxwell

John V. Maxwell is a well respected, author, speaker and pastor. Dr. Maxwell is an expert on leadership.

According to an article I read on, Maxwell has sold over 19 million books, and he has trained 5 million leaders around the world.
Maxwell has written three books which have each sold more than one million copies:

The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership;

Developing the Leader Within You;

The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader. (

One of his most insightful observations is contained in these 13 words:

A word of encouragement from a teacher to a child can change a life.

H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

H. Jackson Brown, Jr. is the author of Life’s Little Instruction Book. It was on the New York Times bestseller list for 158 weeks.

He has captivated audiences with short, inspirational sayings:

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye;

Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking;

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.

One of his most instructive sayings is this thought about preparation:

The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.

George Herman “Babe” Ruth Jr.

When I was a child, the legendary Babe Ruth was one of my heroes.

He was known as “The Great Bambino,” “The Sultan of Swat.”

Whenever my dad talked about baseball, he talked about Babe Ruth’s accomplishments.

According to my father, Babe Ruth set the standard for hitting home runs. In his 22 years in the game, Babe Ruth hit 714 home runs, a record that stood for 39 years. In 1927, he hit 60 home runs, a record that stood for 34 years.

Some in the know, my father was one them, consider Babe Ruth to be greatest baseball player of all time.

According to Babe Ruth, It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.

Anne Frank

As a teenager, Anne Frank saw the face of evil. It forced her and her family to go into hiding. Eventually, she and her relatives were captured, and they were deported to the Nazi concentration camps.

She was fifteen years old when she died of typhus at then Bergen-Belsen Concentration Camp.

Anne Frank’s Diary is a statement about hope. That hope is reflected in these entries:
“… ideals, dreams, and cherished hopes rise within us only to meet the horrible truth and be shattered … yet in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.”

“I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.”

“Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again.”

My favorite Anne Frank truism contains just nine words:

Everyone has inside them a piece of good news.

Jane Goodall

Jane Goodall is an animal rights activist and scientist. She is a genuine pioneer.

For more than 50 years she has been studying the behavior of chimpanzees.

According to an article written by David Quammen and published in National Geographic, “…she set a new standard, a very high standard, for behavioral study of apes in the wild, focusing on individual characteristics as well as collective patterns.”

She shares what she has learned in books and public speeches.

Thinking about her life, she offered this pearl of wisdom:

What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.

Hope is described in this famous Japanese proverb:

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

We will end the blog with an insight from Charles D. Peebler, Jr.

Mr. Peebler served as a member of the Board of Directors of Cure PSP (Foundation for PSP | CBD and Related Brain Diseases.)

“Hope, I’ve come to believe, is as vital to our lives as the very oxygen we breathe. If I were to believe that I couldn’t exert any level of control over my circumstances, I would have already lost the game!”

This article is dedicated to my friends at the John Heinz Institute of Rehabilitation in Wilkes-Barre, PA. They live the twin messages of hope and encouragement every day. Thank You Joanne, Flo, Nicole, Mark and Theresa.

Thank You Brian Carey for writing the beautiful note that got me thinking about encouragement.

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A Letter to a Graduate: Happiness and Success

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

Graduation 2012: Making the Earth and Everything in it Yours

Written by Tony Mussari
Edited by Kitch Loftus-Mussari
Copyright 2012
Mussari-Loftus Associates
The Face of America Project

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. Booker T. Washington


It seems like only yesterday when Kitch and I met Julie Marvel and her son James in the Olympic Museum at Lake Placid, New York. It’s hard to believe that seven years have passed since that fateful day. During that time, Julie, Kitch and I have developed a wonderful frendship.

Julie has been central to our Face of America journey. She invited us to speak to her class at St. Mary’s College. She went out of her way to make our visits to California memorable and productive. She has opened doors, offered wise advice, and she provided encouragement and inspiraton when Kitch was battling cancer.

In our opinion, Julie is everything a friend should be and more. She is a model of the Face of America on its best day.

Recently, Julie invited us to attend James’ high school graduation in California.  Unfortunately, we were not able make the trip.  In addition to the traditional graduation gift, I decided to write something about graduation for James and his parents.

The writing process here is a simple one. I do the research and I write the articles. Kitch is the proofreader and editor. When she finishes her refinements, I always ask her this question: “What do you think?”

I trust her Judgment, and I value her insights.

Her response to the article I wrote for James was direct and very encouraging: “This is beautiful.  It has universal appeal.  You should post it in the Face of America blog so everyone can read it, especially your friends in North Plainfield, New Jersey.”

For every high school student we met at North Plainfield High School in New Jersey, the students we joined during the Tyler Winstead Memorial at GAR High School in our home town, the students From Dallas, High School who visited our garden and the students we met at Central High School in Little Rock, Arkansas, during our Face of America journey this is for you.

More than 50 years ago, I sat where you will be sitting on June 9.  Like most teenagers about to graduate from high school, I was anxious, confident, excited and filled with a feeling of accomplishment and relief. I made it, and I was about to move on to the next phase of my life, a job as a maintenance man in a cemetery so I could earn some money for college.

What you are about to experience provided me with an opportunity to look back on that magical event and think about the things I wish I had known in 1959. It was a much different time and place: no internet, no smart phones, no texting, no social media, no digital divide.
To be sure, you live in a much different world, and yet some things remain unchanged. You and your classmates want to be happy and successful. So did we.

So what are some of the things I wish someone had told me about happiness and success? What are some of the things I learned the hard way? What are some of the things I learned about life?

As a graduation gift, I would like to answer these questions with candor and honesty so that you might benefit and thus avoid some of the bumps on the road that are waiting for you and your classmates.  I hope the quotations and the life experiences recorded below will give definition and meaning to some of the most important lessons I have learned about life since my high school graduation.

Lessons Learned

1. There is no such thing as perfection. Do the best you can whenever you can. No one can expect more from you, and you should expect no less from yourself.

Salvador Dali gave us sound advice with these words: “Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”

Coach Vince Lombardi put it another way: “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.”

2. Don’t fear the unknown. Embrace it, and learn from every mistake you make.  Believe me, you will make many. Most often in life, mistakes are the portals to discovery and success.

Follow the advice of Eleanor Roosevelt: “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.”

3. Don’t define yourself by what you don’t have. Be thankful for what you have and make the most of it.

Cicero gave us a great gift when he wrote these words: “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”

The advice of William Arthur Ward will transform your bad days into good days: “Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”

4. Be kind to yourself by being kind to others. Self indulgence eventually will destroy you. Every kind act you do for someone else will enhance you and make you feel good about yourself.

Dr. Leo Buscaglia’s words are central to a happy life: “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

Harold Kushner provided an invaluable insight when he described the personal effect of an act of kindness. “When you carry out acts of kindness you get a wonderful feeling inside. It is as though something inside your body responds and says, yes, this is how I ought to feel.”

5. Accept rejection gracefully. It’s the part of life no one wants and few of us are prepared for. It’s the feeding ground of resilience, and without resilience there will be no success, and very little happiness.

The words of Kelly Cutrone apply; “When you’re following your inner voice, doors tend to eventually open for you, even if they mostly slam first.”

6. Don’t buy into what Kitch calls the “controlled frenzy” of our world. Being busy to be busy will deprive you of many of the most life-sustaining pleasures of life.  Take time to think, reflect, and act with care and personal investment not reflex.

Coach John Wooden said it best in five words: “Don’t mistake activity with achievement.”

7. Fame and fortune do not guarantee peace of mind. Rather than belaboring this point, I offer the priceless words of Albert Einstein:
“Try not to be a person of success but rather a person of value.”

8. There is no substitute for working hard and smart. Every time I took a shortcut, every time I felt entitled, I paid a heavy price.

“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.”  Beverly Sills

The legendary Babe Ruth put it another way: “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”

Make this Latin proverb your motto: "Per ardura et astra (through hardship to the stars)."

9. Family matters. There is no substitute for quality family life, and you cannot have it without making time for the people you love. Follow the example of your wonderful parents.

“The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.” Lee Iacocca

“I know why families were created with all their imperfections. They humanize you. They are made to make you forget yourself occasionally, so that the beautiful balance of life is not destroyed.” Anais Nin

“The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.” George Santayana

10. Character counts. Character is not about getting, having and taking.  It is often about what you will not do, what you will not take.
Larry Holmes made this point in a memorable way when he told a group of students in Scranton, PA: “There is some money that ain’t worth making.”

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.” Helen Keller

11. Avoid conflict, contention, pettiness and revenge. They are counterproductive. They sap your energy and waste your time. They never produce positive results.

Our greatest president, Abraham Lincoln, was quick to make this point about life and success: “Quarrel not at all. No man resolved to make the most of himself can spare time for personal contention.”

12. Empower others to be all that they can be. What you will remember most, when you get to be my age, are the times when you used your position, your talent and your experience to help someone succeed. I had a priceless moment yesterday. During a chance meeting with a former student, now a successful college professor she gave me a memory I will cherish forever:

“Without your help, I would be an unemployed high school teacher today.”

13. Never stop learning.  Make time to learn at least one new thing every day.

“The only people who achieve much are those who want knowledge so badly that they seek it while the conditions are still unfavorable. Favorable conditions never come.” C.S. Lewis

“The beautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take it away from you.” B.B. King

“Learning is not child’s play; we cannot learn without pain.” Aristotle

14. Forgive yourself and forgive others.

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” Hannah Arendt

15. Build something that will last.

“Everyone must leave something behind when he dies, my grandfather said. A child or a book or a painting or a house or a wall built or a pair of shoes made, or a garden planted. Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die, and when people look at that tree or that flower you planted, you’re there.” Ray Bradbury  

A Lasting Memory

The thing I remember most about my high school graduation is the card I received from my parents. It contained a famous poem written by a poet for his son in 1909.

Yesterday, I asked Kitch to stop at the Hallmark Store to buy the card for you.  Unfortunately, she could not find the card there or in any of the other four stores she visited.  “We don’t make that card anymore,” she was told. “It’s an old card and it’s out of date.”

Fortunately, we have the internet, and I found a copy of the poem. Please read it and judge for yourself. I think it was then and is now the blueprint for the two things every high school graduate is looking for: happiness and success.

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling

Congratulations graduates, thanks Julie, best wishes James and may good fortune always be your friend.

Tony & Kitch Mussari
June 4, 2012
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The Face of America: Mechelle Lewis

Monday, May 30th, 2011

The Face of America: Mechelle Lewis, Moving Beyond Your Now

By Tony Mussari & Kitch Loftus-Mussari
Copyright Mussari-Loftus Associates, 2011

I saw the Face of America today. It belonged to woman whose eyes looked deep into my soul.

I saw the Face of America today.  It belonged to a woman whose words spoke to adversity accepted and challenges met.

I saw the Face of America today. It was competent in all the ways that matter, kind in all the ways that help, and caring in all the ways that build bridges to a better tomorrow.

This Face of America knows the pain of disappointment, the anxiety of rejection, and the ecstasy of accomplishment.

This Face of America risked her future on a dream of becoming an Olympian. When the dream became a reality, she represented her country with dignity, class and distinction.

On the day of our meeting, she wasn’t competing. She wasn’t training. She was sharing her story with a room full of people who were determined to honor the legacy of 2d Lt. Emily Perez, the first Black/Hispanic honors graduate of West Point to lose her life in Iraq. They came together to help young women who want to follow Emily’s Way to a better life of service, success and substance.

On this February night at the Army Navy Club in Arlington, Virginia, Mechelle Lewis shared her message of self improvement with these words:

You must move beyond where you are.

If you want to get better at anything surround yourself with the best, a mentor, someone who has done it before.

Rely on emotions and you will experience insecurity.

Rely on faith and you will open the door to miracles. Faith is an action word.

Everything in your now that doesn’t make sense will one day. The question is, “Do you have the strength to keep moving forward?”

See yourself beyond where you are now. See yourself where you want to be. With sacrifice, heart, excellence, and resilience, you can get there.

You can be anybody. You can do anything. It really happened for me. It can really happen for you to.

When Mechelle Lewis finished her speech, she received an enthusiastic and well deserved response from everyone in the room.

I saw the Face of America today in the shadow of our nation’s capital. It was red white and blue and animated by a heart of gold, not Olympic Gold but the gold of compassion, hope, integrity and resilience.

This is a Face of America I will never forget because it made me proud to be an American and grateful to be in the presence of a woman who does America proud every day of her life.

How could it be any different when Mechelle Lewis and Emily Perez stand together to honor America and offer a helping hand to high school students who are learning, growing and experiencing the light of opportunity in the Emily’s Way mentoring program?

Now that’s a beautiful thought for any day.

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